Staying Strong Through It All
Infertility can be a draining process. For many couples, it starts by wanting a child and then finding out for some reason it won't be so easy for them. Depending on why you aren't getting pregnant the solutions can be exhausting.
Infertility affects some 6 million Americans. For most, this is a major life crisis that puts enormous stress on a marriage. While some couples become stronger; learning to lean on and support each other through the experience. Other couples feel it drives them apart. This is not to say that they don't still love one another, but the feelings of loss are overwhelming.
You need to understand that everyone copes differently. Some people become quiet, because the pain to much to face. While others want to take it head on and consume themselves in the search discussing every avenue of the situation. It is important to understand both your partners and your own way of dealing with this. Most importantly is to communicate and let each other know how you are feeling.
While searching for the right donor or surrogate, don't loose sight of who you are. Continue to live, have fun with each other. Enjoy dinner out, go see a movie - Do the things you have enjoyed together. Not only will this give you something else to focus on, but it will remind you of what you love about the other person.
