Egg Donation & Surrogacy Consulting : Conceptual Options : Theresa Erickson : Embryo Donation, In-Vitro Fertilization

We all know the basics about what not to do while pregnant;  don't smoke, don't drink alcohol,  don't take drugs, don't clean the cat's litter box, etc.  Did you know that there are foods you should avoid while pregnant?

There are some foods that need to be avoided due to the risk they pose on the growing baby.

Pregnant women should make sure that all meat they eat is fully cooked.  That means no more rare steaks or burgers.  Raw meat can contain salmonella which will make both the mother and baby sick. 

Listeria is a bacteria that can cross the placenta and cause infection or blood poisoning to the baby.  Some soft cheeses like brie, feta and Gorgonzola can contain listeria.  These cheeses don't always use pasteurized milk leaving it susceptible to bacteria.  If you are wanting to eat  these cheeses, check the label to make sure it is made from pasteurized milk, then you and the baby will be safe.  Cold cuts can also contain listeria.  If you heat up the meat before eating it, that will reduce the risk.

Fish has become a concern to pregnant women.  Shark, swordfish, king mackerel, and fish used in sushi are all known for having a higher mercury levels than other fish.  High levels of mercury have been directly linked to developmental delays and in some cases brain damage.  It is also recommended to avoid raw shellfish during pregnancy.

Pregnant women should avoid raw eggs.  Raw eggs can also contain salmonella.  This means no snacking on raw cooking dough or brownie mix!  You may want to use caution with sauces that are made with raw eggs, such as hollandaise sauce.

While I don't want to cause alarm if you have already eaten any of these foods;  I'm sure both you and the baby are fine.  Do take extra precautions throughout your pregnancy.  There are still plenty of delicious healthy choices out there.

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They say every pregnancy is different from the one before.  This is also true when it comes to "morning sickness".  I managed to carry five pregnancies without a single moment of queasiness, yet the last pregnancy was not so lucky.

The mere sight of a food commercial or a certain smell in the air was all it would take to make my stomach turn.  I could prepare chicken because I instantly though about the animal in it's former state!  It is just amazing to me how your body can play such tricks on you.  Even through it all, I had what would be considered a mild case of morning sickness.  I was able to eat  and never had to actually run to a toilet, I was just in a state of queasy.

It can be helpful to eat smaller portions more often.  It has been shown that an empty stomach tends to make your morning sickness even worse.  Your stomach has no food to help absorb the acids so they tend to go crazy making you feel ill.  This is where the name "morning sickness" came from.  Since we do not eat while we sleep, most women feels their worst right when they wake up. 

A few of the foods that seem to work like magic are crackers, melons, pretzels, cheese, nuts, toast or yogurt.  And most of all, remember this condition will not last forever.  The end result is worth the discomfort of today.   

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There is a lot of hype about whether acupuncture aids in conception with IVF.  Some professionals believe it absolutely helps while others think it is just another expense to the couple.

Eric Manheimer, a research associate at the University of Maryland School of Medicine's Center for Integrative Medicine looked at seven trials that included 1,366 women undergoing IVF.  Each trial compared acupuncture given within one day of the embryo transfer to sham acupuncture (using a placebo needle) or no acupunction.  They found that the women who had the acupuncture increased their chances of becoming pregnant by 65 percent.    This means that 10 women would need to be treated with acupunction to result in one additional pregnancy. 

It was also found that in Centers where the pregnancy rates are already high, the benefit of acupuncture was small and non-significant. 

At this time, most IVF patients who are participating in acupunction are doing so without the suggestion of their doctor.  Rather, they choose to do so themselves.   Dr. Owen K. Davis, co-director and associate professor at the Center for Reproductive Medicine and Infertility at Weill Medical College of Cornell University in New York City said "I don't think we can say conclusively that acupuncture is effective or is anywhere near being a standard care, but it's not something I would discourage someone from trying if they wanted to.  But I'm far removed from prescribing it to patients".

As a surrogate, I have worked with Intended Parents who felt it would be helpful.  I went the Acupuncturist once a week while cycling to the transfer.  Then the Acupuncturist met me at the IVF Center one hour before the transfer.  I saw her one more time before my pregnancy test.  I was pregnant, but no more pregnant than the other three times it was successful without acupuncture.  I will say that acupuncture is very relaxing.  You are at peace with yourself  while you are laying there.   

At this time incorporating acupunction into your IVF treatment is an individual decision.  If you feel better having acupuncture, then if may work for you.

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There was a report done by University of Melbourne (Australia) that showed that moms who have their babies using IVF (with or without a donor or surrogate) have a lower level of confidence when it comes to caring for their newborn baby. 

I was quite surprised to read this.  After everything a woman goes through to have a child using IVF I would think the opposite would be true.  These women have already overcome so many obstacles I would expect them to have a huge sense of empowerment.  A feeling of anything is possible and the confidence of "there isn't anything I can't do".

All new parents have felt anxious and overwhelmed by bringing their first child home from the hospital.  There are no books that can clearly prepare you for the change in priorities and patterns in your life.  For so many this can be extremely exhausting.  This is not something that is tied to IVF, this is universal. 

This makes me remember a time with my son (who is my second child);  It was about 2:00a.m., he was a week old and  was just crying and crying.  I was walking with him in my arms downstairs.  I tried everything, but there was no pleasing him. The house was quiet, everyone else was upstairs sleeping, so his cry just echoed in my ears.   I had tried everything till finally I completely broke down crying.  At that moment I was thinking "I can't do this, I'm not a good enough mother to have two kids".  The more upset I became the harder it was to calm him down.  Finally I sat down, took a deep breath and then just like magic, he fell asleep.  When we both woke up a few hours later, I had my confidence back and was ready for the new day.

Regardless of how your baby came to be, celebrate the moments and know you are the best mom you can be.  There will be times when you need help and there will be times you can run the entire world while making dinner and vacuuming the house with the baby in a carrier on your chest!!

Being a mother is the hardest thing a woman can be.  Put forward your best efforts and your child will know your love is true. 

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